Understanding What You Want in a Partner
'Dating to I Do' Series | Part one
PRESENTED BY OLIVIA BUCKLEY INTERNATIONAL
CEO of America’s largest matchmaking app, Kellie Ammerman, reveals the secrets of Dating and Marriage with Ireland’s Leading Luxury Wedding Planner
Meet the Matchmaker
We are thrilled to share insights from our client Kellie Ammerman, who is getting married in Ireland this year. Kellie is Co-Founder and CEO of Tawkify, the number one Matchmaking Agency in the United States. In this discussion, we reveal the secrets of love, connection, and building relationships that last. We believe that before finding love with a partner, it is essential to first understand and love yourself. This self-awareness creates the foundation for deeper, more meaningful connections.
Kellie’s innovative approach to matchmaking blends technology, psychology, and real human connection to help people find lasting love. As two women passionate about the love industry, we have seen first-hand that the most successful relationships are built on trust, self-discovery, and a shared vision for the future.
Whether you are still on the path of self-discovery or searching for that special someone, we hope these insights inspire you to create a love story that is uniquely yours.
ABOUT TAWKIFY
Tawkify is the largest matchmaking company in the U.S., committed to helping people find meaningful relationships through a blend of technology, human insight, and personalized matchmaking. Founded to provide a modern alternative to dating apps, Tawkify offers a curated, concierge-style experience that prioritizes compatibility and genuine connection.
Understanding What You Want in a Partner
Before stepping into the dating world, the most important thing you can do is get crystal clear on your core values, lifestyle, and relationship goals. Research in relationship psychology consistently shows that individuals who approach dating with intentionality – knowing what truly matters to them and actively seeking those qualities in a partner – are far more likely to form meaningful and lasting connections.
A Common Mistake
A common mistake people make is using broad, generic terms when describing what they want in a partner – “kind,” “funny,” “attractive,” or “ambitious.” While these are great traits, they don’t necessarily help you identify the right person. Studies show that the more specific you are about your must-haves – focusing on qualities that directly impact compatibility – the more likely you are to recognize and attract a partner who aligns with your vision for a relationship.
Defining Qualities that Matter
That said, being intentional doesn’t mean having an inflexible checklist. It’s about defining the qualities that truly matter – your core values and lifestyle preferences – while staying open to different ways those values might manifest in a partner. Prioritizing traits like emotional intelligence, strong communication, or shared long-term goals can serve as better predictors of relationship success than a long list of superficial preferences.
The Principles of Dating
Think of it like this: If you’ve committed to going to the gym three times a week because fitness is important to you, you wouldn’t suddenly adopt a sedentary lifestyle – that would be inconsistent with your values. The same principle applies to dating. If you’re clear on what matters most to you in a relationship but continually pursue partners whose values and lifestyles don’t align with yours, you’re setting yourself up for frustration and incompatibility. By being intentional and making choices that reflect your values, you naturally filter out misaligned partners and increase your chances of finding someone who truly complements your life.
The takeaway? The more intentional you are––both in identifying what truly matters to you and in aligning your own life with those values – the more likely you are to attract and recognize the right partner when they come along. Love isn’t about stumbling into the perfect relationship. It’s about creating the conditions for one to flourish.
